Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Conflict Resolution Skills For Better Home Development

Conflict is part of life. It is only when we as family members don’t have the skills to move through conflict that it becomes a problem. If you find yourself revisiting the same issues—“Why can’t you pick up after yourself?”, “Why can’t you help out more with the kids?”, or “Why can’t you two just get along for once?”—you may be living in a cantankerous home environment that has your whole family in the “deep end” of life.

Don't despair: there is a solution.

Easy-to-Use Activities for Conflict Resolution Skills Development

My book, When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You contains dozens of easy-to-use tips for developing conflict resolution skills in your children. Here are three of the most effective:

1. Establish Family Rules For Conflict – As a family, create a document that each of you can refer to during fights and arguments. Include things like: we are specific when we talk about our problems, we forgive one another, we are honest, we don’t yell or put another person down, etc. Create this document when things are going well in your household and commit to referring to it whenever a fight heats up. The more everyone is involved with creating the family rules for conflict, the more members of the family will tend to use it.

2. Use a "Mom’s Timeout" – Timeouts are often used as punishment when a child misbehaves (for example, putting them in a corner or on a stair for a certain amount of time). This technique meets with varied success. In my book, I spend four pages discussing a “Mom’s Timeout.” How this activity works is that mom (or dad) takes the timeout—disengaging from the conflict in order to return with a clear head, one of the key requirements to resolving conflict quickly. This strategy works all the time when used correctly. Why? Because, although a mom can’t control her child all the time, she can control herself.

3. Perform "Daring Do Overs" – We all make mistakes and say things that we wish we could take back. Instead of feeling guilty, use a “Daring Do Over.” This activity is like the rewind button for your mistake. It's your “take two” opportunity in which you can do it all over again—only this time, better. This strategy not only decreases conflict, but also helps all members of the family to practice behaving well so there is a much better chance that we all do it better next time.

Many of us cringe at the thought of conflict; however, it is an unavoidable part of life. Equip your children with the skills to handle conflict well by using the above activities for conflict resolution. Your family members will not just survive conflict: they will actually thrive as a result of it.

Success In Life Through Home Developing

In developing success in life such as building a home business, one can learn greatly when developing in ones' great strengths. There are many great lessons that one can learn on how to focus on strengths to develop on success for home business.

A great lesson that one can learn is through focusing on the individual strength, it can enable such individuals to understand his strengths better. Through such understanding, with persistence and consistency in taking great action, individual can achieve great level of success

Secondly, the great lesson in focusing in ones strength is it can enable the individual to internalize and realize their great potential. For example, through developing such focus such as writing down ones strengths, it can enable individuals to create a clear plan and work on the plan to success. One can learn here that such plan can involves small but consistent action taking by such individuals. Through such great consistency, it can enable them to reach great level of success.

Thirdly, in building strengths in oneself, one can realize that he can experience disappointment and setbacks. Through such experiences, he can also realize that he might need to step out of his comfort zone and face many great learning opportunities such as criticisms and delayed gratifications to achieve success. Such learning opportunities can teach individuals to learn about patience and controlling emotions in dealing with the different challenges and situations.

Fourthly, in developing strengths, one can also learn to appreciate others feedback better. Through the continual learning and development of strengths, feedback from others is an important part of the process. Feedback from others enables the individual to take a step back, reflect, create the plan and act on it to develop on building and developing the business.

Fifthly, such understanding in ones strengths can develop individuals' mental strength as well. Once the individual understand his strengths better, he can develop great confidence and focus on continually improving himself.

In developing and focusing on strength, one can realize that it requires planning, consistency taking action to develop and improve on the strengths. It can also require the individual to step out of his comfort zone. Through such experience, one can learn that it is a continual learning journey and developing on strength in the home business can require such individuals to continually learn and improve. In such learning experience, one can learn that with a simple and clear plan to succeed, individuals can develop their strengths effectively and achieve great success in the business.